Starting Over: Resurrecting Relationships

Do you ever wish you could meet someone for the first time again and start over? Do you ever ask yourself, how did we get to this ugly place? How did distance come bet ween us, who were so close? Or, you might ask yourself, how come I’ve known you for so long and we’ve never broken the ice, this ice that prevents us from truly opening our hearts to one another? How can we break the ice if an Ice Age is all we’ve come to know or have ever known?

I want to clarify that I’m not here speaking solely about a significant other, but also about our children, our siblings, our parents, our friends…

So maybe you were really close to someone, someone with whom you shared not only your pains but also that silly and quirky side no one else seems to understand. Or maybe you’ve always wanted to get close to someone but you can’t seem to cover topics beyond “how’s the weather?.” I realize these are two very different situations, but they include the same heart’s desire: can we just start over?

God is merciful and compassionate. He is the Resurrection. In Christ, we learn the mystery of Redemption. If you are willing to invite Christ into your heart, He will teach you how to die to your old self and be born into a new person. He will also guide you to place your relationship at the foot of the Cross, where you will witness the reality of the paradox “through death comes life.” God, Who is all loving, hears your cry and desires to resurrect all of your relationships.

When someone goes through a major life change, a resurrection, we can be hesitant and uncomfortable to trust in the truth of their heart’s conversion. We need to stop judging and believe once more in the power of grace. After all, we don’t want people to see us under a judgmental light and see our “conversion” and our “new ways” as us being self-righteous…this is very hard. No, this is a time  to fall before God in our weakness and to rise before God in His strength, to pray for our death and our resurrection, for the death of our old ugly ways and for the birth of our new beautiful ways. And, at the same time, pray for that person, who right now is piercing your heart, to also be transformed by His grace. And, we must be grateful for His grace, for this is the grace that allows us and this person to become new, the grace that is allowing us to slowly change our ways, the grace that allows us to be patient, kind, and vulnerable to one another as we are dying before one another, and for the grace  to hold on to the hope of the resurrection.

God, you are merciful and compassionate, increase our faith, hope, and love in You, our Father and our Mother. Help us die before we die that we may live in eternity right now, always living and breathing, thinking, speaking, and doing before Your Presence. Help us to see all things and all people in Your merciful and compassionate Light. Help us to forgive one another, to let go and let God. And, finally, help us to break the ice when all we’ve known or come to know is the Ice Age.

As always, feel free to comment with your own experience or message me privately. I would love to learn from you about the feminine genius’ power to forgive and vulnerable willingness to start over.

Lord, have mercy. Lord, have mercy. Lord, have mercy.

Praise be to You,  the Most High God, for You are very good. You are the healer and You hear our cry.

O Heavenly King, the Comforter, the Spirit of Truth, everywhere present and filling all things, the Treasury of Blessing, and the Giver of Life, come and dwell within us and cleanse us from every blemish and save our souls O Good One.

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us!

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us!

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us!


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