Cultivating a loving relationship with your self

Practicing compassionate presence. You may listen to this guide meditation or read below.

Breathe in. Breathe out.

After doing, doing, and doing, try being, being, and being.

Turn your outward gaze inward and be with your self – breathe in and breathe out. Follow the stream of your breath. Feel your breath gently flowing in and out of your nose as waves ebbing and flowing in the ocean of your life.

You are your most intimate and faithful friend.

All the truth, beauty, and goodness for which you hunger and thirst is waiting to be discovered within your self. Be tempted not to glance over what’s hidden in your heart – a sacred scripture inscribed therein by God. Your breath and only your breath holds the power to turn these secret pages.

Now, place your hands tenderly on your heart as you would caress a baby. Mother your heart. Maternally embrace all of your fears and pains as you would hold a frightened or hurt child who might be screaming, crying, or silently burrowing into your arms. Judge not how your fears or hurts are expressed. Your self, naked and vulnerable, only needs your loving presence. Please don’t turn away. Please don’t lull your self to sleep by numbing her pain and ignoring her fears. Your self doesn’t need you to do anything. Simply be the Mother she needs here and now.

Here. Now. Your are breathing here and now. Your heart is beating here and now. You are alive here and now. Let this precious stream and beat take you deeper into the here and the now.

Have a compassionate dialogue with your self (you may choose to use a mirror and follow the script below):

“I am happy to be with you here and now. I want to spend time with you. I want you to know that I embrace all of you, and I love you. I know your heart’s deepest longings. I want you to be safe. I want you to be healthy. I want you to be happy. I want you to be free. I want you to know that you are precious and kind. I see you. I am sorry. I am sorry for clouding your mind with negative thoughts. I only want to give you clear skies and sunny days. I am sorry for making your tongue taste bitter words, when I know that you have such sweet and lovely truth to share. I am sorry for using your hands for selfish purposes, for taking instead of giving, for grasping instead of receiving. I am sorry for using your hands to hurt – please know that these hands of yours were made to heal the world. I am sorry for taking your feet, out of fear, guilt, or lust to places where they don’t belong or where they’re not even welcome. I only want to take you to beautiful and serene places full of light and love. I am sorry for using your ears to listen to lies. I am sorry for ever making you believe broken words from broken hearts. I am sorry for using your gorgeous eyes to covet at what’s not mine, because you already offer me absolutely everything. Your skin. Your skin tells our story, and I’m not ashamed to read it, even if some chapters are painful. I am sorry for making you hold on to grudges that make your heart so heavy. I want you to be light hearted and fly like a butterfly. Right now, I want to extend forgiveness to everyone who, whether knowingly or unknowingly, has hurt me. And, I want to ask for the forgiveness of everyone who, whether knowingly or unknowingly, I have hurt. Your heart is a sacred chalice filled with the sweetest wine – give drink freely to the thirsty. I love you. Thank you for being you. “

Radiate self-love. Teach others self-love. Cultivate this relationship with your self with every breath and heart beat by simply being compassionately present to your self. The cultivation of your inner garden of paradise is your most important work. Don’t exile your self from the tree of life that is within you. Your heart is the most fertile land in which to plant the mustard seed holding the Kingdom of God. Be the gardener your heart needs and till, sow, and reap love, harmony, and beauty not only for your self but for all beings who hunger and thirst.

Await not for “there” and “later” to get to know your self – seize the “here” and the “now” with compassionate presence.

2 thoughts on “Cultivating a loving relationship with your self”

  1. I have looked in the mirror too long and realized I have become selfish and had forgotten that it is not just all about me, but also about God, only by resting in Him have I put the pieces together and found that yes, He created me and I am His special daughter, but also a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a friend, a wife… all these just because I am His daughter a woman.


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